Its an early friendsgiving here in my apartment.
With my roommates living on the East and West Coasts, and all of us have different schedules, we won’t all be here for the week of Thanksgiving, so we’ll just bring on the holiday early.
There’s no such thing as Thanksgiving without a turkey, however, as much as we like to think we’re all talented enough to have our own Food Network show, roasting a turkey may be a little ambitious for us. So, we’ll just head over to Trader Joe’s and pick up a turkey breast to keep in the crock pot all day, so we can still go to class and not have to worry about it. There’s a Wine and Spirits store across the street, so a nice rich white and a light red will be the perfect compliments to the food we’ll have on the table!
When we get home from class and work, the corkscrew seems to magically appear on the countertop and the corks find their way into the mason jar that holds the corks from fun nights full of bad decisions. As Grace pre-heats the oven for the vegetables, Katie pours her first glass of wine, and the conversation of the night begins.
We’re all on different paths for our lives, but one thing we all have in common is the fact that whether we like it or not, boys have an impact on our lives.
The exes come up in conversation more than any of us really want them to, but they have a funny way of sneaking up into our lives just as everything is going well. Now don’t get me wrong, at one point, they were our everything (or as close to our everything as they could be considering we’re only in our early twenties.) Tonight, however, they didn’t pop up on their own.
It’s hard when you get stressed, and life gets difficult, to not have that person around that you always used to have. You used to tell them everything, and they were able to comfort you in a way that no one else could. So when you need to feel better, it can be hard to not pick up your phone and talk to them. My roommates are always there for each other when we can tell one of us is falling into that cycle. We know what it looks like to long for that person because we’ve all been there. But we also know the hurt and sadness that comes after the conversation, because we’ve all been there too.
When one of my roommates starts to fall back to their exes charm and what attracted her in the first place, its all hands on deck. Movie nights, girls nights out, fam dinners, and shopping trips fill our schedules just to make sure that each one of us is doing okay. We’ve all experienced heartbreak so we all know that it doesn’t just go away in a day, it just slowly gets better until eventually you don’t even realize it’s there anymore.
So in the spirit of the holiday, we’re giving thanks to everything that makes us happy, instead of thinking about our stressors and exes.
I’m thankful for my family and how they’re supporting me while I’m trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my life. I’m thankful for my boyfriend, who not only makes me smile and laugh everyday, but helped put my broken heart back together (as cliche as that sounds.) Emily has her mom, who is there for her no matter what, and understands that sometimes credit card debt is worth it for that new pair of shoes. Grace is thankful she can fly home for the holidays and see her family, something that a lot of us who live in driving distance take for granted. Katie holds her little kitten on the couch, who always knows when she’s not feeling well and falls asleep on her chest. And Lilly, well, she’s thankful she just signed an incredible job offer for after graduation and has one less thing to worry about.
Boys will be boys, and there’s nothing we can do to change that. They’ll be in and out of our lives until we find “the one.” But our best friends stick around a lot longer than that, and that’s what we’re thankful for.
And besides, if it weren’t for our exes, what acceptable reason to drink would we have?